The Top 5

Being a Man:
The Top 5

What does it take to be a Man?

I get asked this question a lot, and here is what I say. When you think of a typical man, many people might imagine a guy with a chiseled jaw, someone who can bench press 1000 pounds, a person who says "bro" all the time.

But all of that is just icing. What lies beneath defines the man.

5. Abundance mentality. You can come from a place of scarcity, or you can live in a place of abundance.

Women are truly abundant on this planet. If things don't work out with one, you can easily go and find other women who are more compatible. Men believe this. It's not in their nature to cling to people who don't rise to their standards. They don't chase girls who are flakey, manipulative or duplicit. A man will move on swiftly from such people.

4. Clarity. There are so many confused guys on this planet. Their heads are full of noise. Sometimes this noise was put there by childhood abuse, sometimes by failed relationships, sometimes by religion.

These dudes don't know what they want from girls. They are floundering around life unfulfilled and without direction. They don't even know themselves that well.

A person doesn't have inner clarity if he has to first sift through a bunch of static. To reach clarity, a dude needs to clear out his inner space, turn down the noise. Once he does this, he must learn how to be clear with his words and actions. Only then is he a man.

3. Assertiveness. Being aggressive makes people feel used. But people will step all over you if you are passive.

Between these two opposites is being assertive. Men go after the things they want, though never by violating the rights of others. They defend themselves from aggression and take care not to abuse those who are passive.

When you believe in yourself and your mission, you will assert yourself to make it happen.

2. Authenticity. I can't tell you how many girls are wary of guys who lie to them. Lack of integrity and authenticity will kill so many interactions. Let's face it, lots of dudes will be less than honest to get into a girl's pannies. Not cool.

If you want to be a man, you must be authentic. You must have a clear belief system, and you must hold yourself accountable to it.

Say what you mean to say, do what you say you're gonna do, own your intentions.

1. Confidence. I hear it all the time from women: "Confidence is sexy."

A girl can tell right away if a dude lacks confidence. Even if he puts on a good show, most women are in tune with a man's confidence. You can't fake it.

I'm not talking about being confident in your work, or confident because you have a sweet ride. I mean deep core confidence. As in, you truly love and respect yourself, and are willing to give yourself all the best things life has to offer.

Confidence is something you can acquire, in part through competence. That is, as you become increasingly at ease interacting with women, you will develop competence - even mastery - which will naturally lead to confidence in your social abilities.

It can take a ton of hard work, but without confidence, you simply are not a man.

Man School is designed to transform dudes into men.

If any of the above are missing in your life, then we can help.