Get her Emotionally Invested Through Texting
How to Motivate Girls to Invest in You
Think your text game is pretty good? Or do girls flake on you left and right? Well, your game is about to get a whole lot better.
Emotional investment is critical to reducing flaking after you get a number. Here are several ways to go about getting it.
1. Give value. Through the concept of reciprocation, when you give someone value, they will feel obligated to return value. As they give you more and more value, they find themselves invested in the interaction. For example, if I send a photo of my dog to a girl, she will often text me back a pic of her dog. Don't invest too much too early. Look for evidence she's participating in the exchange of value, and amp up accordingly.
2. Give positive emotions. When something makes you feel good, you put energy into obtaining more of it. Make her feel sexy, horny, happy, excited or stroke her ego.
3. Get her to qualify herself. Sometimes when a girl says something you like, you'll genuinely reward her for this. But don't validate all of her attempts; some of it shouldn't impress you. When she's letting you know how great she is and you're not biting, she will want to meet up to prove she's as qualified as she says.
4. Get her to comply. Have her open up about herself sexually. Be powerful; if a girl feels you aren't a man of power then she won't comply with you. Gain trust; if she feels you're judgmental or inexperienced with women, she won't be able to trust you sexually. Before you send a text, ask yourself, “Do I feel powerful as a man when I say this sort of thing?” If not, try to feel that power and find a way to use that feeling.
5. Demonstrate high value. If you seem like a sexual prize worth chasing, they will. If you paint yourself as a loser who can't score, she won't bother investing.
6. Build intrigue and tension. Tell a story with your texts, giving her one piece at a time. Reel her in and then give the punchline after she takes the bait. This is like reading a murder mystery. She feels compelled to keep turning the pages to get to the reveal at the end. In short, she becomes invested in the plot because you've created suspense.
7. Push-pull. Especially with sexual intent. Keep them guessing. Show interest, then disinterest. Be dismissive and playfully condescending at times. At one moment seem like you want to seduce her, then the next accuse her of being a bad girl trying to corrupt you.
8. Other girls like you. Be non-needy in the way you time your texts. That is, if you go to a club Saturday and then text a girl Sunday at 9am, you're basically telling her you didn't pull. Likewise if you jump through all her hoops and qualify yourself to her, the subtext is you don't get laid a ton. Another more obvious way to indicate preselection is to mention other girls you know, dates you were on or wild times you simply can't discuss.
9. Look for signs they are seeking rapport, and reward this. If she is mirroring you, then she's trying to seek rapport. If she is offering a lot of intimate details about herself, she is trying to build a connection. This is a good thing. She's becoming invested.
Emotional investment is explained fully in Marlowe's ebook Text Game Primer, which is available to Man School students.
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